On Natural Relation

Natural relation is an assuring, comforting and desirable communicative state. And it’s a possible harmony everyone can reach. While an un-nature one is a tragic result of an matchless expectation and reality, a condition without effective mutual assurance. "We human beings, used to be a creature with two heads, four arms and four legs." as a notion suggests, "Once born into this earthly world, we are split into halves, waiting and searching for someone." It is totally comprehensible that we may sometimes long for a few intimates to chatter, a stretch of affinity to depend on. The biggest, meanwhile the most misunderstood, misconception lies in an undue one-way emotional attachment, one with overwrought and unrealistic expectation concomitant. The relationship is never reliant on how much you think yourself have invested, and how much you yourself value this treasure. It is the time you've spent together, the communal goal you've aimed for, and most importantly the natural comfort-rendering nexus, that really counts. Once this seriously self-centered and misshapen mismatch dominates our ration and emotion, never is it comfortable for either involved. With the positive one feeling urgent, and passive one afraid of being pressed. If that is the truth. The past happiness is only a vivid memory, existing in the untouchable memory. What a pity! A too fervid effusion scarifies another, pushing him away, coercing him into a guarding defense. Like a fierce gush, it cannot be too natural to retreat, to defend. Like knocking a door, too frequent and increasingly fierce knocking makes person inside fearful, denying to open the door. A too demonstrative exuberance also burns oneself, leaving behind a barrage of self-skeptism, self-abandonment and self-fury. Intimate relation should be, and is bound to be, a comforting and assuring one, instead of a tiring and bothersome one. One important thing. Do not push yourself too hard. The more important one. Never indulge yourself too deeply. Just keep patience and keep balance. Be sure to bear it in mind: Communication is just an interaction, where the transmitter encodes and the receiver decodes, despite interference and noises. Hope it’s not too late.