回头看这个电影,懂得了什么叫做《感同身受》

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2018-03-27 看过
第一次看这部电影,心里的感觉就是感动,听父亲的话时是比较平静和安慰的。

3月去了一次摩洛哥,在舍夫沙万,在那里遇见了一个摩洛哥穆斯林男孩,很干净的眼睛,像舍夫沙万这个蓝色小镇一样纯净。我向来是拒绝crush的旅行者,也从来没有crush,但就是不经意的一句发自内心的夸赞,牵起了这段奇怪的缘分。

在舍夫沙万的几天,我都会去他的店里买纪念品,顺便聊几句,男孩也从开始的羞涩变得开始健谈,甚至在我走的那天他要来送我。加了facebook,还教他下载了微信,一直到回国,都没有断了联系。

直到有一天他问我会不会再回去,我对他,是不是sth about love,他让我seriouly的讲,然后他会回答。

自嘲点讲,我是一个大龄剩女,好在家人的开明,还能让我在30随时保持一些自由和洒脱。但我又是一个实际和理性的人。我大他8岁,但是他丝毫不介意,不知道穆斯林是不是天生严肃,不能开玩笑,但他确实有点打动我的心,就像我高中第一次看到暗恋的男生那种感觉,本以为这辈子不会第二次有的这种感觉。我甚至有了想再一次回到摩洛哥的冲动,理智与情感在打架,不知道自己的这种念头是错是对。

直到回头再看《call me by your name》,终于理解了Elio和Oliver,即使知道结果也忍不住拥住哪怕一刻钟的相爱,理解了那个夏天带给Elio一个月的美好和一生的影响。再看这部电影,心里是隐隐作痛。而重读一遍父亲的话,是恍然大悟,我不知道作者是有过什么样的经历,才能写出这么深刻的台词,我想在我今后人生中的某个时刻,这段话都会对我有所影响。就像现在,我真的打算再去一次摩洛哥了。再贴一次父亲的话:

You had a beautiful friendship. Maybe more than a friendship. And I envy you. In my place, most parents would hope the whole thing goes away, or pray that their sons land on their feet soon enough. But I am not such a parent. In your place, if there is pain, nurse it, and if there is a flame, don't snuff it out, don't be brutal with it. Withdrawal can be a terrible thing when it keeps us awake at night, and watching others forget us sooner than we'd want to be forgotten is no better. We rip out so much of ourselves to be cured of things faster than we should that we go bankrupt by the age of thirty and have less to offer each time we start with someone new. But to feel nothing so as not to feel anything—what a waste!"

How you live your life is your business. But remember, our hearts and our bodies are given to us only once. Most of us can't help but live as though we've got two lives to live, one is the mockup, the other the finished version, and then there are all those versions in between. But there's only one, and before you know it, your heart is worn out, and, as for your body, there comes a point when no one looks at it, much less wants to come near it.
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