出版社: Three Rivers Press (CA)
副标题: A Practical Guide from the Country's Foremost Relationship Expert
出版年: 2000-5-10
页数: 288
定价: GBP 11.48
装帧: Paperback
ISBN: 9780609805794
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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical question...
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John Gottman has revolutionized the study of marriage by using rigorous scientific procedures to observe the habits of married couples in unprecedented detail over many years. Here is the culmination of his life's work: the seven principles that guide couples on the path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Packed with practical questionnaires and exercises, The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work is the definitive guide for anyone who wants their relationship to attain its highest potential.
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According to most relationship books, the key to a solid marriage is communication, communication, communication. Phooey, says John Gottman, Ph.D., author of the much-lauded Why Marriages Succeed or Fail. There's much more to a solid, "emotionally intelligent" marriage than sharing every feeling and thought, he points out--though most couples therapists ineffectively (and expensively) harp on these concepts.
Gottman, the director of the Gottman Institute, has found through studying hundreds of couples in his "love lab" that it only takes five minutes for him to predict--with 91 percent accuracy--which couples will eventually divorce. He shares the four not-so-obvious signs of a troubled relationship that he looks for, using sometimes amusing passages from his sessions with married couples. (One standout is Rory, the pediatrician who didn't know the name of the family dog because he spent so much time at work.)
Gottman debunks many myths about divorce (primary among them that affairs are at the root of most splits). He also reveals surprising facts about couples who stay together. They do engage in screaming matches. And they certainly don't resolve every problem. "Take Allan and Betty," he writes. "When Allan gets annoyed at Betty, he turns on ESPN. When Betty is upset with him, she heads for the mall. Then they regroup and go on as if nothing's happened. Never in forty-five years of marriage have they sat down to have a 'dialogue' about their relationship." While this may sound like a couple in trouble, Gottman found that they pass the love-lab tests and say honestly that "they are both very satisfied with their relationship and they love each other deeply."
Through a series of in-depth quizzes, checklists, and exercises, similar to the ones he uses in his workshops, Gottman provides the framework for coping with differences and strengthening your marriage. His profiles of troubled couples rescued from the brink of divorce (including that of Rory, the out-of-touch doctor) and those of still-happy couples who reinvigorate their relationships are equally enlightening.
--Erica Jorgensen
About Author
JOHN M. GOTTMAN, Ph.D., is a professor of psychology at the University of Washington and cofounder and codirector of the Seattle Marital and Family Institute.
Book Dimension :
length: (cm)20.5 width:(cm)13.3
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约翰·戈特曼 作者
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约翰·戈特曼
享誉世界的“婚姻教皇”
美国华盛顿大学心理学教授,西雅图人际关系研究所所长,从事家庭关系方面研究长达40年,婚姻关系、人际关系研究领域的*专家,被媒体誉为“婚姻教皇”。
人际关系领域最杰出的心理学者
4次荣获美国心理健康研究院科学研究者奖章,并获美国婚姻与家庭治疗协会杰出科学研究者奖章、美国家庭治疗学会杰出贡献奖、美国心理协会家庭心理学分会会长奖章。
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夫妻间的绝大部分争吵是无法解决的,要学会去正确面对
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0 有用 ZZ 2018-02-23 02:30:48
道理表达得很清晰,主要是看行动了。而且不是一方的事情,是双方的事情。
0 有用 千里长青 2018-08-27 15:33:40
0 有用 栗子向日葵 2021-03-01 11:04:25
好书!
0 有用 不爱看书的路飞 2016-07-10 14:26:17
The friendship, PSO (Positive Sentiment Override), 4 horses
0 有用 momo 2019-01-31 17:38:11
行行出状元 门门是学问
0 有用 Answer Lu 2023-09-21 09:58:08 上海
After seen the sentence," I can find out whether they would divorce in the future after I see them in five minutes." I think he is an arrogant person.
0 有用 九山狐 2023-09-13 00:14:15 北京
不知道和fighting for your marriage 这本书,哪本书更早。很多内容相通!俗称婚前使用说明书。
0 有用 ian 2022-12-26 22:25:17 云南
作者的ego随处可见。干货确实有,但作者完全忽视了lgbt+群体,几乎没有平权意识,所有理论都基于传统异性恋婚姻模式。(有些章节倒是可以拿来当写同人发刀指南
0 有用 Young_To 2022-04-27 11:08:39
关键要实践 并且要双方的实践 很多英文话术中文语境并不适用 还要好好想如何去说
0 有用 落花时节再吃鸡 2022-01-31 17:46:44
受益匪浅!在领证前正好看完!是可以定期拿出来翻看的书。推荐给要结婚以及婚姻中的朋友们。原则1:相互了解 原则2:培养喜爱和仰慕 原则3:双向奔赴 原则4:让你的伴侣影响你 原则5:解决可解决的问题 用“我”代替“你” “the wife is usually responsible for a harsh start-up”原则6:绕开或解决无法解决的问题 原则7:创造共同的意义