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百分之百commit

Shermanizer
2018-03-26 07:56:29
百分之百commit
Never Binge Again
3/25/2018

作者不厌其烦、极度耐心、上蹿下跳、防患未然地讲道理,真是让我汗颜:很多人的心智,包括我,大概其实只停留在孩童阶段。

核心道理是我已经知道的,大脑中人的更远古更primal的决策系统(囤积carb、fight/flight)简单粗暴,很多时候已经不适用于当代物质高度丰富的文明社会,但仍优先于更晚时候进化出的更加理性复杂的决策机制,于是我们很容易做出事后极度后悔但仍屡屡就范的错误决定。书中形象地把它们称为fat/thin-thinking self, alternate egos,把坏的那个称为The Pig。虽然一开始觉得很搞笑,但意识到是有道理的,联系到最近一期东吴里讲到的人有不同的自我(58: 一个人的团队),我明白这样明确区分的用意所在。

另一个核心道理,就是自制力,就是要百分之百地commit。只有1和0,只有黑白,看似难做到,但我慢慢被说服其实这样才是最有效的。一方面联系到1.01^365和0.99^365的区别,另一方面也让我想到今年刚开始的一两周我坚决10:30PM闹钟就睡觉,但慢慢开始relax到“再看3分钟手机”,直到最后溃不成军一泻千里,整个system崩塌。

还有一个,是你不需要等到理解了why xxx is wrong









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百分之百commit
Never Binge Again
3/25/2018

作者不厌其烦、极度耐心、上蹿下跳、防患未然地讲道理,真是让我汗颜:很多人的心智,包括我,大概其实只停留在孩童阶段。

核心道理是我已经知道的,大脑中人的更远古更primal的决策系统(囤积carb、fight/flight)简单粗暴,很多时候已经不适用于当代物质高度丰富的文明社会,但仍优先于更晚时候进化出的更加理性复杂的决策机制,于是我们很容易做出事后极度后悔但仍屡屡就范的错误决定。书中形象地把它们称为fat/thin-thinking self, alternate egos,把坏的那个称为The Pig。虽然一开始觉得很搞笑,但意识到是有道理的,联系到最近一期东吴里讲到的人有不同的自我(58: 一个人的团队),我明白这样明确区分的用意所在。

另一个核心道理,就是自制力,就是要百分之百地commit。只有1和0,只有黑白,看似难做到,但我慢慢被说服其实这样才是最有效的。一方面联系到1.01^365和0.99^365的区别,另一方面也让我想到今年刚开始的一两周我坚决10:30PM闹钟就睡觉,但慢慢开始relax到“再看3分钟手机”,直到最后溃不成军一泻千里,整个system崩塌。

还有一个,是你不需要等到理解了why xxx is wrong with me才去改变这个xx。从专门研究人心理的作者嘴中说出,更加有分量。贪恋矫情,对镜自艾,真是可以了。不需要问why,不要把自己当个易碎的宝一样去研究,行动,in the present.

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we just treat ourselves the same way we’d treat a child who’s genuinely trying to accomplish something important. ... suppose your 5 year old daughter has her heart set on riding her bicycle to the top of a very steep hill... (这个比喻,讲不要因为预见到很可能会失败就不去尝试)

The Pig exists because you SAY it exists, end of story.

yet another insane proposition: That one must be comfortable at all times, and that Bingeing is the ONLY way to alleviate discomfort.

Sometimes, we also confuse dehydration with hunger.

The Pig doesn’t care about your well-being at all. It ONLY wants Slop, so why would you ever take its thoughts seriously?

Why not draw clear boundaries around the bullseye so you can concentrate all your energy—indeed the very essence of your being—on hitting it? Then if you happen to miss, just analyze, readjust and commit once again. If you keep doing this your aim MUST get better… But not if you’re prevented from aiming in the first place.

Why not draw clear boundaries around the bullseye so you can concentrate all your energy—indeed the very essence of your being—on hitting it? Then if you happen to miss, just analyze, readjust and commit once again. If you keep doing this your aim MUST get better… But not if you’re prevented from aiming in the first place. And that’s what the “fuzzy target” philosophy (“progress not perfection” and “guidelines rather than rules”) does to us…

Then if you happen to miss, just analyze, readjust and commit once again.

Your Pig would love to have you concentrate only on the short term effects of deprivation because it genuinely believes Pig Slop is the only pleasure life has to offer.

But at 90% compliance the Pig keeps Squealing. It drains your energy and confidence and wears you down.

Accomplish progressively more meaningful goals, fully confident you can count on yourself to stay on track until they are achieved…

The real question is whether you’ll choose a life of discipline versus a life of regret.

... man’s way of wrestling with constructive vs. destructive impulses
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