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1.是什么决定了你在感情中的表现?

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Baer, D. (2016). This revolutionary parenting insight will help your love life. Science of Us.

Bartholomew, K., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Methods of assessing adult attachment: Do they converge? In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment Theory and Close Relationships (pp. 25-45). New York: Guilford.

Broggard, B. (2015). How to changeyour attachment style? Psychology Today.

Davila, J., Burge, D., & Hammen, C. (1997). Why does attachment style change? Journal o

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在《所以,一切都是童年的错吗?》一书自出版后,陆续有读者询问文中未附参考文献的问题。其实,书中每篇文章在提交时,均按照公众号KnowYourself的内容标准附上参考文献。当时,出版社编辑认为本书定位为心理学科普而非学术书籍,故最终决定将全部参考文献删去。

为满足大家的参考需求,特此补充本书参考文献如下(与篇目对应):

1.是什么决定了你在感情中的表现?

参考文献:

Baer, D. (2016). This revolutionary parenting insight will help your love life. Science of Us.

Bartholomew, K., & Shaver, P. R. (1998). Methods of assessing adult attachment: Do they converge? In J. A. Simpson & W. S. Rholes (Eds.), Attachment Theory and Close Relationships (pp. 25-45). New York: Guilford.

Broggard, B. (2015). How to changeyour attachment style? Psychology Today.

Davila, J., Burge, D., & Hammen, C. (1997). Why does attachment style change? Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 73(4), 826-838.

Dekel, S., & Farber, B. A. (2012). Models of intimacy of securely and avoidantly attached young adults: A narrative approach. The Journal of Nervous and Mental Disease, 200(2), 156-162.

Djossa, E. (2014). Is there hope for insecurely attached. Science of Relationships.

Firestone, L. (2014). Change your attachment style to have a better life. The Huffington Post.

Main, M. (1995). Recent studies in attachment: Overview, with selected implications for clinical work. In S. Goldberg, R. Muir & J Kerr (Eds), Attachment Theory: Social, developmental and clinical perspectives, pp. 407-470. Hillsdale, NJ: Analytic Press, Inc.

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2.机能不全的家庭,会如何影响身在其中的你?

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Baumrind, D. (1967). Child care practices anteceding three patterns of preschool behavior. Genetic psychology monographs, 75(1), 43-88.

Hansen, S. (2005). Tools For Your Emotional Health Toolbox. Trafford Publishing.

Hosier, D. (2014). Childhood Trauma : Emotional Abuse. childhoodtraumarecovery.com; First Edition edition.

Masteller, J., & Stoop, D. (2011). Forgiving Our Parents, Forgiving Ourselves: Healing Adult Children of Dysfunctional Families. ReadHowYouWant.com.

Polson, B., & Newton, M. (1984). Not my kid: a family's guide to kids and drugs. Arbor House.

Wegscheider, S. (1981). Another Chance: Hope and Health for the Alcoholic Family. Palo Alto, CA: Science and Behavior Books. pp. 85-88.

3.“妈宝”男是怎么形成的?

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Arbona, C. & Power, T.G. (2003). Parental attachment, self-esteem, and antisocial behaviors among African American, European American, and Mexican American Adolescents. Journal of Counseling Psychology, 50(1), 40-51.

Auchincloss, E.L. & Samberg, E. (2012).Psychoanalytic Terms and Concepts. Psychoanalytic Electronic Publishing.

Bernstein, E. (2013). A mother, a son, and a wife. The Wall Street Journal.

Cooper, P.J. et al., (2013). Mother-child attachment and gender identity in preadolescence. Sex Roles, 69, 618-631.

Lombardi, K.S. (2012). The Mama’s Boy Myths: Why Keeping Our Sons Close Makes Them Stronger, NY:Avery Press.

Kim, J. & Cicchetti, D. (2004). A longitudinal study of child maltreatment, mother-child relationship quality and maladjustment: The role of self-esteem and social competence. Journal of Abnormal Child Psychology, 32(4), 341-354.

Pilossoph, J. (2014). Men and their mommies: How the mother-son relationship can contribute to divorce. Huffington Post.

Salamon, M. (2011). Baby-mother bonds affect future adult relationships, study finds. Live science.

Schwartzman, G. (2006). The subjectivity of the mother in the mother-son relationship: Attachment, separation, and autonomy. International Forum of Psychoanalysis, 15: 226-232.

Segal, J. & Jaffe, J. (2016). Attachment and adult relationship. Help Guide.

4.父亲如何影响了我们的一生?

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Croft, A., Schmader, T., Block, K., &Baron, A. S. (2014). The Second Shift Reflected in the Second Generation Do Parents’ Gender Roles at Home Predict Children’s Aspirations?. Psychological Science, 0956797614533968.

Diamond, M. J. (2007).My father before me: How fathers and sons influence each other throughout their lives. WWNorton & Company.

Feldman, R., Weller, A., Zagoory-Sharon, O., & Levine, A. (2007). Evidence for a neuroendocrinological foundation of human affiliation plasma oxytocin levels across pregnancy and the postpartum period predict mother-infant bonding.Psychological Science,18(11), 965-970.

Fraley, R. C. (2004). A brief overview of adult attachment theory and research. Retrieved August, 16, 2007.

Lamb, M. E. (Ed.). (2004).The role of the father in child development. John Wiley & Sons.

Padilla‐Walker, L. M., Carlo, G., Christensen, K. J., & Yorgason, J. B.(2012). Bidirectional relations between authoritative parenting and adolescents’ prosocial behaviors.Journal of Research on Adolescence,22(3), 400-408.

Paquette, D. (2004). Theorizing the father-child relationship: Mechanisms and developmental outcomes.Human development,47(4), 193-219.

Pougnet, E., Serbin, L. A., Stack, D. M.,& Schwartzman, A. E. (2011). Fathers' influence on children's cognitive and behavioural functioning: A longitudinal study of Canadian families.Canadian Journal of Behavioural Science/Revue canadienne dessciences du comportement,43(3), 173.

W. Bradford Wilcox. (2013). The Distinct, Positive Impact of a Good Dad. The Atlantic.

Marie Hartwell-Walker. (2015). What Only a Father Can Do. Psych central.

5.为什么说原生家庭不是决定你的唯一因素:关于我们的“精神胚胎”

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Baer, D. (2016). Your personality starts showing up during infancy. Science of Us.

Blatny, M., Jelinek, M., & Osecka, T. (2007). Assertive toddler, self-efficacious adult: Child temperament predicts personality over forty years. Personality and Individual Differences, 43, 2127-2136.

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Caspi, A., Roberts, B.W., & Shiner, R.L. (2005). Personality development: Stability and Change. Annual Review of Psychology, 56, 453-476.

Costa, P. T., Jr., & McCrae, R. R. (1994). Stability and change in personality from adolescence through adulthood. In C. F. Halverson, G. A. Kohnstamm, & R. P. Martin (Eds.), The developing structure of temperament and personality from infancy to adulthood (pp. 139-150). Hillsdale, NJ: Erlbaum.

Dahl, M. (2014). How much can you really change after you turn 30? Science of Us.

Erikson, E. H. (1950b), Growth and Crisis of the “Healthy Personality.” In: Personality in Nature, Society, and Culture, 2nd Ed., ed. C. Kluckholn & H. A. Murray. New York: Knopf, 1948, pp. 176-203.

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Friedersdorf, C. (2016). Do humans inherit or create their personalities? The Atlantic.

Gallagher, W. (1994). How we become what we are.

Hayasaki, E. (2016). Traces of times lost. The Atlantic.

Jarrett, C. (2016). Personality appeared before you could talk. BBC.

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McCrae, R.R. et al. (2000). Nature over nurture: Temperament, personality, and life span development. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 78(1), 173-186.

Thompson, R.A. (2008). The psychologist in the baby. Zero to Three.

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6.一个人要如何才能走向独立?

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Kagitcibasi, C. (2005). Autonomy and relatedness in cultural context implications for selfand family. Journal of cross-cultural psychology, 36(4), 403-422.

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Noom,M. J., Deković, M., &Meeus, W. H. (1999). Autonomy, attachment and psychosocial adjustment during adolescence: a double-edged sword?. Journal of adolescence, 22(6), 771-783.

Reis, H. T., Sheldon, K. M., Gable, S. L.,Roscoe, J., & Ryan, R. M. (2000). Daily well-being: The role of autonomy, competence, and relatedness. Personality and social psychology bulletin, 26(4), 419-435.

Steinberg, L.(2011). Adolescence (9th ed.). New York: The McGraw-Hill Companies, Inc.

Steinberg, L. (2014). Age of opportunity: Lessons from the new science of adolescence. Houghton Mifflin Harcourt.

Wielenga-Meijer, E. G., Taris, T. W.,Wigboldus, D. H., & Kompier, M. A. (2011). Costs and benefits of autonomy when learning a task: An experimental approach. The Journal of socialpsychology,151(3), 292-313.

7.这3种类型的完美主义者,是你吗?

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Benson, E. (2003). The many faces of perfectionism. American Psychological Association.

Cha, A.E. (2016). Your perfectionist parenting style may be detrimental to your child. The Washington Post.

Dahl, M. (2014). The alarming new research on perfectionism. Science of Us.

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Moser, J.S., Slane, J.D., Burt, S.A., &Klump, K.L. (2012). Etiologic relationships between anxiety and dimensions of maladaptive perfectionism in young adult female twins. Depression and Anxiety,29, 47-53.

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Staff, P.T. (2003). The perfectionist’s flawed marriage. Psychology Today.

8. “自卑情结”背后的成因是什么?

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Pappas, S. (2011). Narcissists’ overconfidence may hide low self-esteem. Live Science.

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9.我们为什么不愿意谈论自己的真实感受?

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Mark Greene.(2016). Women Are Better At Expressing Emotions, Right? Why It's Not That Simple. The Good Men Project.

McAdams, D. P. (1985). Power, intimacy, and the life story.Homewood, IL: Dorsey.

Pearl, L., & Kassan, L. (2012). Beginning couple therapy: Helping couples attain emotional fluency. Group, 3-18.

Sass, K., Fetz, K., Oetken, S., Habel, U., & Heim, S. (2013). Emotional verbal fluency: A new task on emotion and executive function interaction. Behavioral Sciences,3(3), 372-387.

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10.什么是内向者专属的“社交宿醉”?

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Beukeboom, C. J., Tanis, M., & Vermeulen, I. E. (2013). The Language of Extraversion Extraverted People Talk More Abstractly, Introverts Are More Concrete.Journal of Language and Social Psychology,32(2), 191-201.

Depue, R. A., & Fu, Y. (2013). On the nature of extraversion: variation in conditioned contextual activation of dopamine-facilitated affective, cognitive, and motor processes.

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Furnham, A., & Allass, K. (1999). The influence of musical distraction of varying complexity on the cognitive performance of extroverts and introverts. European Journal of Personality,13(1), 27-38.

Hirsh, J. B., Guindon, A., Morisano, D.,& Peterson, J. B. (2010). Positive mood effects on delay discounting.Emotion,10(5), 717.

Helgoe, L. A. (2013).Introvert power: Why your inner life is your hidden strength. Sourcebooks, Inc..

Laney, M. O. (2002).The introvert advantage: How to thrive in an extrovert world. Workman Publishing.

Shawna Courter. (2016). Yes, THERE IS SUCHA THING AS AN ‘INTROVERT’ HANGOVER. Introvertdear.com.

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11.为什么有些人比大多数人更敏感?

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Aron, E. N. (1996). Counseling the highly sensitive person. Counseling and Human Development, 28, 1-7.

Bernstein, E. (2015). Do you cry easily? You may be a highly sensitive person. The Wall Street Journal.

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12.明知自律有益,为什么总是做不到?

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Abrams, L. (2013). Study: people with a lot of self-control are happier. The Atlantic.

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13.如何提高对不确定的容忍度?

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Beck, J.(2015). How Uncertainty Fuels Anxiety. The Atlantic.

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14.你为什么总是感到空虚?

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15.你有“彼得潘综合症”吗?

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16.为什么说有些付出是“过度”的?

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17.如何更科学地拒绝别人?

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18.人格是可以被改变的吗?

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19.我们应该如何看待失败与遗憾?

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25.你有没有经历过这4种高压型控制?

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26.这4种背叛,你经历过哪一种?

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27.分手后,应不应该迅速开始新恋情?

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28.为什么会无法对前任释怀?

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29.当恐惧婚姻时,你在恐惧什么?

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