Differences between men and women

Windlley

It is a really interesting book deserving reading.I had just read chapter1,2,5 of this book because I had other materials waiting for me and I find it useful to read such a book.While reading the book,I learned quite a lot of skills not only suitable for the relationship between men and women,but between person to person.Surprisingly,I found I knew little about women as a female.Here are my notes:

Martian is always to assume he cansolve his problem unless he is asking for help. Two mistakes: 1.A man tries to change a woman’s feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings.2.A woman tries to change a man’s behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the homeimprovement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism. To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic license to use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations.M...

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It is a really interesting book deserving reading.I had just read chapter1,2,5 of this book because I had other materials waiting for me and I find it useful to read such a book.While reading the book,I learned quite a lot of skills not only suitable for the relationship between men and women,but between person to person.Surprisingly,I found I knew little about women as a female.Here are my notes:

Martian is always to assume he cansolve his problem unless he is asking for help. Two mistakes: 1.A man tries to change a woman’s feelings when she is upset by becoming Mr. Fix-It and offering solutions to her problems that invalidate her feelings.2.A woman tries to change a man’s behavior when he makes mistakes by becoming the homeimprovement committee and offering unsolicited advice or criticism. To fully express their feelings, women assume poetic license to use various superlatives, metaphors, and generalizations.Men mistakenly take these expressions literally.Because they misunderstand the intended meaning, they commonly react in an unsupportive manner. The biggest challenge for women is correctly to interpret and support a man when he isn’t talking. Silence is most easily misinterpreted by women. A man feels supported when a woman communicates in a way that says “I trust you to handle things unless you directly ask for help.” It is very difficult for a man to differentiate between empathy and sympathy. He hates to be pitied. “If I miss a plane, don’t tell me ‘I told you so.’ Trust that I will learn my lesson and adjust accordingly. If I forget my toothbrush or shaving kit, let me deal with it. Don’t tell me about it when I call.”

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