Chapter 2

“One of those realizations was this: that life itself is a form of suffering. The rich suffer because of their riches. The poor suffer because of their poverty. People without a family suffer because they have no family. People with a family suffer because of their family. People who pursue worldly pleasures suffer because of their worldly pleasures. People who abstain from worldly pleasures suffer because of their abstention.”
各种烦恼是存在于心中，但也是各种烦恼，推进我们成长不是么？

“There is a premise that underlies a lot of our assumptions and beliefs. The premise is that happiness is algorithmic, that it can be worked for and earned and achieved as if it were getting accepted to law school or building a really complicated Lego set. If I achieve X, then I can be happy. If I look like Y, then I can be happy. If I can be with a person like Z, then I can be happy.”
很多人想着只要我能实现A，我就会很幸福，我自己也如此想过。
由于我们本性中带来容易感到不满与焦虑，很不幸，不存在如此简单的方程。

“And this pain, as much as we hate it, is useful. Pain is what teaches us what to pay attention to when we’re young or careless. It helps show us what’s good for us versus what’s bad for us. It helps us understand and adhere to our own limitations. It teaches us to not fuck around near hot stoves or stick metal objects into electrical sockets. Therefore, it’s not always beneficial to avoid pain and seek pleasure, since pain can, at times, be life-or-death important to our well-being.”
如果你和我一样的话，其实我们都很讨厌“疼”这种感觉，但是，神经系统制造了痛觉正式为了拯救个体于生死攸关。试想板凳上有个尖锐的物体，并且我们没有痛觉。。。
痛觉不仅仅是物理上的，mental suffer也是，它在告诉我们目前个体所不能接受的事实发生了，要么接受，要么做出改变。

“Happiness comes from solving problems. The keyword here is “solving.” If you’re avoiding your problems or feel like you don’t have any problems, then you’re going to make yourself miserable. If you feel like you have problems that you can’t solve, you will likewise make yourself miserable. The secret sauce is in the solving of the problems, not in not having problems in the first place.”
幸福可以来自于我们不断对于各种大大小小问题的“work-in-progress” 与 "done"。

“I wanted the reward and not the struggle. I wanted the result and not the process. I was in love with not the fight but only the victory.
And life doesn’t work that way.”
停止问自己想要什么，比如和理想的伴侣白头偕老、财务自由、环游世界。这太简单了，谁不能设定这样的目标呢？
想一想自己能接受怎样的struggle，勇敢的承担，努力的前行。

“we like the ida that we can fell fulfilled and satisfied with our lives forever but we cannot”.