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Chapter 1 The Uncomfortable Truth


什么是Uncomfortable Truth?补充一下:

If I worked at Starbucks, instead of writing people’s names on their coffee cup, I’d write the following:

One day, you and everyone you love will die. And beyond a small group of people for an extremely brief period of time, little of what you say or do will ever matter. This is the Uncomfortable Truth of life. And everything you think or do is but an elaborate avoidance of it. We are inconsequential cosmic dust, bumping and milling about on a tiny blue speck. We imagine our own importance. We invent our purpose—we are nothing.

Enjoy your fucking coffee.

Chapter 2 Self-Control Is an Illusion



如何博弈呢?用Three Idiots电影中的一句话总结:心很脆弱,你要学会哄ta。



Chapter 3 Newton's Laws of Emotion

NEWTON'S FIRST LAW OF EMOTION:For Every Action, There Is an Equal and Opposite EmotionalReaction.


But here’s the funny thing about value hierarchies: when theychange, you don’t actually lose anything. It’s not that my friend decided to start giving up the parties for her career, it’s that theparties stopped being fun. That’s because “fun” is the product of ourvalue hierarchies. When we stop valuing something, it ceases to befun or interesting to us. Therefore, there is no sense of loss, nosense of missing out when we stop doing it. On the contrary, we lookback and wonder how we ever spent so much time caring aboutsuch a silly, trivial thing, why we wasted so much energy on issuesand causes that didn’t matter. These pangs of regret orembarrassment are good; they signify growth. They are the productof our achieving our hopes.


NEWTON'S SECOND LAW OF EMOTION:Our Self-Worth Equals the Sum of Our Emotions Over Time.

But our inherent narcissism comes at a cost. Whether youbelieve you’re the best in the world or the worst in the world, one thing is also true: you are separate from the world.


NEWTON'S THIRD LAW OF EMOTION:Your Identity Will Stay Your Identity Until a New ExperienceActs Against It.


改变当然痛苦。因为你要改变的是你的一部分,而这部分构成了你的自我。你改变等于割肉,能不痛苦吗?虽然痛苦,但又不是不可能。 文中举的例子是一个女孩被骗过,可能再也不相信爱情了,因为这样被对待,所以又这么对待下一个男孩,而分开的结果又加强了女生的信念。而被伤害的男孩,又重蹈女孩的覆辙...





Chapter 4 How to Make All Your Dreams Come True


1. Belief systems.

2. How to find your first followers.

3. Rituals, rituals, rituals!

4. How to choose a scapegoat.

5. And finally, how to make money. hahah


Step one: Sell Hope to the Hopeless

Step two: Choose Your Faith

每个人都有一个God’s Value。然后就会通过这个价值去看待其他任何事物,所以其他的事物都带上了这个价值的影子。

Step Three: Preemptively Invalidate All Criticism or Outside Questioning


Us-versus-them dichotomies。

Step Four: Ritual Sacrifice for Dummies—So Easy, Anyone Can Do It!


Rituals are visual and experiential representations of what we deem important. That’s why every good religion has them.

Remember, emotions are actions; the two are one and the same. Therefore, to modify (or reinforce) the Feeling Brain’s value hierarchy, you need some easily repeatable yet totally unique and identifiable action for people to perform. That’s where the rituals come in.

Step Five: Promise Heaven, Deliver Hell


The beauty of a religion is that the more you promise your followers salvation, enlightenment, world peace, perfect happiness, or whatever, the more they will fail to live up to that promise. And the more they fail to live up to that promise, the more they’ll blame themselves and feel guilty. And the more they blame themselves and feel guilty, the more they’ll do whatever you tell them to do to make up for it.

Step Six: Prophet for Profit!




但是作者最后又说出了人间真相,那就是whether you realize or not, you are already in one.

但这又不是你我的问题,因为it's impossible not to adopt it.

Because the only thing that can ever truly destroy a dream is to have it come true. 最后这句话扎心了,哈哈哈。但是只要心态好,这个不是问题。因为你的幸福并不是实现了梦想才能拥有,而是过程中的每分每秒都是幸福的一部分。

Chapter 5 Hope Is Fucked



Whereas master morality believes in the virtue of strength and dominance, slave morality believes in the virtue of sacrifice and submission.

Science is arguably the most effective religion because it is the first religion that is able to evolve and improve upon itself.

It is an ongoing, ever-changing body of evidencebased beliefs, one that is free to mutate, grow, and shift as the evidence dictates.

And that ability to look back and see progress, see growth happen, changed how people viewed the future. It changed how they viewed themselves. Forever.

Nietzsche, understanding that existence is inherently chaotic and unknowable, believed that we were not psychologically equipped to handle the task of explaining our cosmic significance. He saw the spate of ideological religions that spewed forth in the Enlightenment’s wake (democracy, nationalism, communism, socialism, colonialism, etc.) as merely postponing the inevitable existential crisis of mankind. And he hated them all. He found democracy to be naïve, nationalism stupid, communism appalling, colonialism offensive.

Nietzsche instead believed that we must look beyond hope. We must look beyond values. We must evolve into something “beyond good and evil.” For him, this morality of the future had to begin with something he called amor fati, or “love of one’s fate”: “My formula for greatness in a human being,” he wrote, “is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary—but love it.”




These conflicts must exist because they maintain the meaning and purpose for people within the group. (P113)

Therefore, it is the conflict that maintains the hope.

So, we’ve got it backward: everything being fucked doesn’t require hope; hope requires everything being fucked.



Nietzsche believed that none of the ideologies generated by the scientific revolution would hold up in the long run.



Nietzsche instead believed that we must look beyond hope. We must look beyond values. We must evolve into something “beyond good and evil.” For him, this morality of the future had to begin with something he called amor fati, or “love of one’s fate”: “My formula for greatness in a human being,” he wrote, “is amor fati: that one wants nothing to be different, not forward, not backward, not in all eternity. Not merely bear what is necessary, still less conceal it—all idealism is mendacity in the face of what is necessary—but love it.

Amor fati, for Nietzsche, meant the unconditional acceptance of all life and experience: the highs and the lows, the meaning and the meaninglessness. It meant loving one’s pain, embracing one’s suffering. It meant closing the separation between one’s desires and reality not by striving for more desires, but by simply desiring reality.

It basically meant: hope for nothing. Hope for what already is—because hope is ultimately empty. Anything your mind can conceptualize is fundamentally flawed and limited and therefore damaging if worshipped unconditionally. Don’t hope for more happiness. Don’t hope for less suffering. Don’t hope to improve your character. Don’t hope to eliminate your flaws.

Hope for this. Hope for the infinite opportunity and oppression present in every single moment. Hope for the suffering that comes with freedom. For the pain that comes from happiness. For the wisdom that comes from ignorance. For the power that comes from surrender.

And then act despite it. (P114)

其实我理解作者的结论是,希望是中性的,它是一切坏的起因,也是一切好的起因。所以希望是虚无的。既然是虚无的,那就不要追求希望了,be better ourself!!!

This is our challenge, our calling: To act without hope. To not hope for better. To be better. In this moment and the next. And the next. And the next.

Everything is fucked. And hope is both the cause and the effect of that fuckedness.






Chapter 6 The Formula of Humanity







How to Be an Adult

Eventually, though, we realize that the most important things in life cannot be gained through bargaining.


而成年人,视honesty为自然而然的原则,Honesty本身就是目的,即使这样会对自己造成痛苦。 An adolescent will say that she values honesty only because she has learned that saying so produces good results. But when confronted with difficult conversations, she will tell white lies, exaggerate the truth, and become passive-aggressive. An adult will be honest for the simple sake that honesty is more important than her own pleasure or pain. Honesty is more important than getting what you want or achieving a goal. Honesty is inherently good and valuable, in and of itself. Honesty is therefore an end, not a means to some other end.

An adult will love freely without expecting anything in return because an adult understands that that is the only thing that can make love real. An adult will give without seeking anything in return, because to do so defeats the purpose of a gift in the first place.




Why We Don't Grow

要避免conditonality,而act unconditionally。



The One Rule for Life

Kant argued that the most fundamental moral duty is the preservation and growth of consciousness, both in ourselves and in others. He called this principle of always putting consciousnessfirst “the Formula of Humanity,” and it kind of explains . . . well, like, everything, ever. It explains our basic moral intuitions. It explainsthe classic concept of virtue.34 It explains how to act in ourday-to-day lives without relying on some imagined vision of hope. It explains how to not be an asshole.

And, as if that weren’t enough, it explains all of it in a single sentence. The Formula of Humanity states, “Act that you use humanity, whether in your own person or in the person of anyother, always at the same time as an end, never merely as a means.”

Kant summed up these unconditional acts with one simple principle: you must treat humanity never merely as a means, but always as an end itself.







Chapter 7 Pain Is the Universal Constant

This is the Blue Dot Effect. The better things get, the more we perceive threats where there are none, and the more upset we become. And it is at the heart of the paradox of progress.



Developmental psychology has long argued something similar: that protecting people from problems or adversity doesn’t makethem happier or more secure; it makes them more easily insecure. A young person who has been sheltered from dealing with any challenges or injustices growing up will come to find the slightest inconveniences of adult life intolerable, and will have the childish public meltdown to prove it.




This is because pain is the experience of life itself. Positive emotions are the temporary removal of pain; negative emotions the temporary augmentation of it. To numb one’s pain is to numb all feeling, all emotion. It is to quietly remove oneself from living.


Living well does not mean avoiding suffering; it means suffering for the right reasons.

The Only Choice in Life




What’s so remarkable about Thich Quang Duc is not that he chose to set himself on fire in political protest (although that ispretty damn remarkable). What’s remarkable is the manner in which he did it: Motionless. Equanimous. At peace.

Truly adult values are antifragile: they benefit from the unexpected. The more fucked up a relationship gets, the moreuseful honesty becomes. The more terrifying the world is, the more important it is to summon up the courage to face it. The more confusing life becomes, the more valuable it is to adopt humility.

Pain Is Value

When we pursue pain, we are able to choose what pain we bring into our lives. And this choice makes the pain meaningful—and therefore, it is what makes life feel meaningful.

Pain is the source of all value. To numb ourselves to our pain is to numb ourselves to anything that matters in the world. Pain opens up the moral gaps that eventually become our most deeply held values and beliefs.

When we deny ourselves the ability to feel pain for a purpose, we deny ourselves the ability to feel any purpose in our life at all.

Chapter 8 The Feelings Economy



The world runs on feelings.


Compulsive behavior aimed at experiencing more stuff is not freedom—again, it’s kind of the opposite.


More stuff doesn’t make us freer, it imprisons us with anxiety over whether we chose or did the best thing. More stuff causes us to become more prone to treating ourselves and othersas means rather than ends.



The only true form of freedom, the only ethical form of freedom, is through self-limitation. It is not the privilege of choosingeverything you want in your life, but rather, choosing what you will give up in your life.

Greater commitment allows for greater depth. A lack of commitment requires superficiality. (关于这一点,嗯...,我再想想。)

Plato's Prediction



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