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读书笔记 Part 2 Stoic Psychological Techniques
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这一趴讲得都是具体实践。

chap4 Negative Visualization

进行negative visualization一是可以帮助我们防止可能会发生的不幸,比如安装防盗防止人来踹门。也可以在不可避免的不幸发生的时候让我们更淡定。当真的发生的时候可以lessen the impact。如果一个人“expect nothing but good fortune”那不幸发生时候受影响就更大。

We should keep in mind that 'all things everywhere are peridhable'. If we fail to recognize this and instead go around assuming that we will always be able to enjoy the things we value, we will likely find ourselves subject to considerable distress when the things we value are taken from us.

人的欲求总是不满,一样满足了就要去追求下一样,称为hedoic adaptation,就是bjorn的哲学。这样人就在一个satisfation treadmill上并不会真正获得快乐。有desire不能满足的时候就不高兴,努力得到了高兴一下然后又想要下一样又开始了不高兴的循环。想解决这个就要主动避免这个Process发生。很多生命中其实很重要的东西我们都take for granted就是因为没主动做这件事。We need to create a desire for the things that we already have. 这个是happiness的真谛。具体方法就是每天抽取固定时间来进行有目的地冥想,想自己失去亲人了,没有水喝了,失明了,该怎么办,会有什么想法。然后冥想之后就能更珍惜自己拥有的东西。

By contemplating the impermanence of everything in the world, we are forced to recognize that every time we do somthing could be the last time we do it, and this recognition can invest the things we do with a significance and intensity that would otherwise be absent. We will no longer sleepwalk through our life.

Chap5 The Dichotomy of Control

这个和很多哲学讲得差不多。这个世界上的事情分为三种,有我们完全不能控制的事,有我们完全可以控制的事,也有我们有部分可以控制的事。如果想内心获得平静,就需要完全放开我们不能控制的事,不为其所烦恼。想要快乐那就别设自己得不到的goal. 不desire自己得不到的东西应该是我们最主要的desire,这样就不会焦虑有压力。

If what you seek is contentment, it is better and easier to change yourself and what you want than it is to change the world around you.

但也不是就让人不思进取,而是要把goal设成internal的,把自己变成一个更好的人,让自己tennis特定技巧变得更好而不是一定要赢得比赛。

什么是能够gurantee complete control的事情呢?我们给自己设定的goal,我们对别人的opionion,我们对世界的看法,自己的values。emotion和feeling并不是full control但是之后你如何act on it 是你自己能control的。

具体实践就是每天把让自己烦恼的事情分到上面的类别里面,然后不让他们让自己烦恼,设定Internal goal。

Chap 6 Fatalism

都是命是JF的哲学。在前阵子还是对我有一点帮助可是后来还是不愿信命。书里说我们应该对已经发生的事情认命,对当下这一个moment认命,但是对于将来还是要采取一个积极的态度,过去发生的事情是让我们从中学习的,不断沉浸于过去的不幸中对于人生没有任何好处。要从中学习能学习到的东西。

Instead of thinking about how our situation could be worse, we refuse to think about how it could be better. In behaving fatalistically with respect to the past and present, we refuse to compare our situation with alternative, preferable situations in which we might have found or might now find ourselves. By doing this, the Stoics think, we will make our current situation, whatever it may be, more tolerable.

Chap7 Self-Denial

比negative visualization更上一层,不仅停留在visualize不幸发生,而是live as if they had happened。practive poverty等等。

We can live perfectly well without some of these things, but we won't know which they are if we don't try living without them.

主动给自己造成discomfort.冬天少穿点出去挨冻啥的。主动挨饿等等。welcome a degree of discomfort in their life. voluntary discomfort. 优点一是让自己更坚强,能够接受未来必然来到的风雨。相当于给自己打疫苗。也可以看成买保险,如果做了,那将来发生的时候对自己的影响就没那么大。并且也让人更自信,如果自己平时就voluntarily discomfort,也能相信自己能够应对人生中的不幸。如果没有这种自信反而会引起焦虑的情绪。还有一个优点是让我们更appreciate自己已经有的东西。经常实验voluntarily discomfort的人会有一个wider comfort zone.

If all we know is comfort, we might be traumatized when we are forced to experience pain or discomfort, as we someday almost surely will.
The person who, in contrast, is a stranger to discomfort, who has never been cold or hungry, might dread the possibility of someday being cold and hungry. Even though he is now physically cofortable, he will likely experience mental discomfort -- namvely, anxiety with respect to what the future holds in store for him.

除了voluntary discomfort还建议forgo opportunities to experience pleasure.这个我感觉还不太能同意。

Chap8 Meditation

吾日三省吾身的概念

What ailment of yours have you cured today? What failing have you resisted? Where can you show improvement?

再高一层,

as we go about our daily business, we should simultaneously play the roles of participant and spectator.

每天过一个mental checklist,是否都按一个Stoic推荐的去做了?

行高于言,practice自己做就好了,没有必要跟人讲。

progress可以通过下面来check:是否他人对自己的影响边小了,是否自己更少blaming, censuring, and prising others了,是否自己的emotion更keep in check了。自己是否更有tranquility了。

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