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读书笔记 The social motivations of people with low self-esteem
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not quite the opposite of high self-esteem ppl, namely, not necessarily wanting to fail and be disliked

what do these people want? the issue of motivation

By examining studies on self-handicapping, allocation of free-choice time, task persistence, self-presentation, and response to feedback, it will be possible to furnish a picture of the motivations and goals of the typical person with low self-esteem.

Conclusion anticipation:

1). desire success, love and admiration, wealth and fame as much as their high self-esteem counterpart

2). but such goals seem out of reach and are not part of thier ongoing concerns

3). major goals: avoid failure, humiliation, rejection, and other disasters (due to the perceived costs and pains of failure and an instinctive self-protection)

4). behaviors:

a. neutral, noncommittal self-presentations

b. focus on shortcomings and try to remedy them

c. show little interest in strategic ploy for success, but are quite strategic in self-protection and the avoidance of failure

(mind that we are talking about normal social circumstances)

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Self-protection, self-enhacement or self-hatred?

Although people with low self-esteem may believe criticism more than praise, they would rather have praise; likewise, they want self-enhancement as much, but they do not take risks cuz they have modest means and limited resources

who are these people with low self-esteem?--->self-esteem scale: high scores are high, but low scores are medium

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Protection, enhancement, and self-esteem

high self-esteem people are more concerned with self-enhancement, and low self-esteem people are more concerned with self-protection (my thought: or rather, high self-esteem people do not always focus on the self, or even if they do they manage to have other priorities? like bettering the world? indeed, I do hold that it is potentially false to descrive the primary motive of high self-esteem people as self-enhancement, it is, rather as far as I observe, self-enhancement for a higher purpose)

behaviors tha combine self-protection and self-enhancement: self-handicapping, self-improvement (>>NOTE: intention matters!! and high and low self-esteem ppl may be concerned with the same behaviors for different, distinguishable reasons)

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SELF-HANDICAPPING

putting barriers in the way of one's own success both provides a protective excuse for failure and enhances credit for success

an individual may engage in self-handicapping behavior primarily for one of the two motives: he or she simply receive the benefits of the other as a bonus

what self-hadicapping specifically protects, or enhances, is self-esteem

two types of ppl and their attitudes towards self-relevant potential success and failure

NOTE: self-handicapping occurs only when the task is important or self-relevant

in unimportant conditions: low self-esteem ppl protect their images by preparing a great deal in order to decrease their chances of failing (here I think there may be a conceptual failure, what counts as a self? and what if there is a confusion making the so-called low self-esteem people unable to recognize what is self-relevant and what is not? their selves, in this case, are absorded by other selves)

Takeaway:

1). do not chase self-relevant success

2). get fully prepared for self-relevant failures

3). distinguish between self-protective nonaction and I-don't-care kind of nonaction

my impression:

these researchers are insightful, they may want to blame everything to low self-esteem, which suggets that low self-esteem ppl 做咩都错,点都系错, indeed they are

low self-esteem ppl: they do not have a stable self, while they are trying to be consistent

high self-esteem ppl: they have a stable and consistent self, and they don't focus on or aware of the self cuz they have more exciting things to take part in

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self-interpretation

low self-esteem and habitual modest self-derogation

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persistence and choice of task

people with low self-esteem think they are vulnerable to failure and have various shortcomings, so they should focus on remedying these deficiencies in order to come up to a passable, acceptable level. People with high self-esteem think they are already quite passable and acceptable, so they should seek to reach levels of outstanding excellence

my impression:

high achievers all love themselves? or those who love themselves are all high-achievers? no way

isn't this high achiever syndrome?

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