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"Most individuals I try to help," he continued, "are operat- ingtheir own private museum of mental horror. Many marriage difficulties, for example, involve the 'honeymoon monster.' The honeymoon wasn't as satisfactory as one or both of the marriage partners had hoped, but instead of burying the memory, they reflected on it hundreds of times it was a giant obstacle to successful marital relationships. They come to me as much as five or ten years later.

A person can make a mental monster out of almost any unpleasant happening," my psychologist friend went on. ''A job failure, a jilted romance, a bad investment, disappointment in the behavior of a teenage child-these are common monsters I have to help troubled people destroy."

It is clear that any negative thought, if fertilized with repeated recall, can develop into a real mind monster, breaking down confidence and paving the way to serious psychological difficulties.

要懂得失败是常事。

如果自己反复回忆重新思考自己的错误经历,不停批评自己,只会让自己越来越弱,就像每次都喂养一个负面思维的怪兽,会让自己越来越没自信。

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